Sister Missing In Kansas

As Salaamu Alikum,


I was checking Twitter this morning and I found something disturbing from @muslimmatters Twitter feed. One of our fellow Muslimahs, Aisah Khan, is missing and the family needs your duas as well as information leading to her safe return, inshaallah.


Aisha Khan was last seen on Friday, December 16th on the University of Kansas campus.  On the morning she went missing, she sent a text to her sister saying that she was being followed by a man who was drunk. When her sister went to the campus to pick her up, the sister found her Bookbag and her cell phone.


Aisha Khan is 19 years old, 5'2 inches tall, and weighs 120 lbs. She was last seen  wearing a yellow and black shirt, black sweat pants and a black head scarf. She may have also been wearing glasses. She was wearing a black jacket beneath a longer black and white coat.

The Khan family is offering  a $10,000 reward for anyone who knows any information as to the whereabouts of Aisha Khan. Anyone with information is asked to call the Kansas CrimeStoppers TIPS line at 816-474-TIPS (874-474-8477).

UPDATE: Since this post, Aisha Khan was found alive and well, alhamdulliah. She is back home safe with her family.

Read more: http://www.kansascity.com/2011/12/18/3327185/10000-reward-offered-for-missing.html#ixzz1gz34yKdl

Trials and Tribulation (the blessings of them all)

Aaliyah Imani bint Islam Morris (at 6 Months)

As Salaamu Alikum,

When I took my shahadah two years ago, I remember one of the Muslim brothers leaving me with a very valuable naseeha- that Islam is a perfect religion but it’s the people who will try your faith. It is this that I have to remember when the trials and tribulations come-even those you never expect. 

I am now twice divorced- and  seven months pregnant.  It is very exciting time in my life because Allah (swt) blessed me with a sacred gift that too many women take for granted – motherhood. But being that it is excting time it is also a trying time for me as well. I am in my second divorce and it’s painfully obvious that being on my second divorce means that I have not learned anything from my first. And now there is a baby girl involved who has to unintentionally pay for the choices that have been made. One of biggest fears is playing out right before my very eyes- that I will be a single mom. I fought so hard to keep things Islamic as possible between me and her father, for the sake of Allah and to make sure our daughter had her father around. Plus, I never wanted my daughter to experience the pain that I went through of not having a father around. And that is what is breaking my heart the most as a mom- that my daughter will not have her father around because he refuses to acknowledge and take responsibility for his own flesh and blood. I pray that my ex will see the errors of his choices, do what is correct in Islam and take care of our daughter. Amin.

When I think about the examples of single motherhood in Islam, two women stick out in my mind -Hajar and Maryam (peace and blessings be upon them both). When her husband Ibrahim had to leave Hajar in the desert with their son Ismai’l, Hajar had to truly rely on Allah to provide them difficulty for their ease. She rode back and forth seven times in between two rocks, trying to find water so she can feed her infant son. After her seventh attempt, Hajar fell exhausted with Ishmai'l in her arms. While Ishmai'l was crying, he tapped his heel and water came out of the ground. And that's how Zamzam water came about. 

As for Maryam, she had Isa (peace be upon them both) inspite of having to do it alone and  having to endure labor without any pain medication.  

May Allah guide me through this difficult time and help me find wisdom, understanding and blessing in it. Amin. 

It's all a test...

As Salaamu Alikum,

Often as Muslims we tend to forget that sometimes the biggest challenges to our deen is not what we do when times our good but what we do when times are hard. It's almost been about two months since I posted an entry and it's not like I have not been trying. I have been struggling to put my posts in a way that is both helpful and strong, inshaallah.

The last post I put up was in May, so it's been about two months since I put up anything. So today I kept thinking about the story of ZamZam. It's more than a story about water. It's a story about how a woman named Hagar persevered when times got hard for the sake of Allah and for the sake of her newborn son, Ismail. The clip below is an excerpt about that faithful day.

The Reality of True Islamic Love (DeenOverDunyaShow) Trailer

As Salaamu Alikum,

This is what I listen to for a reminder about marriage. Enjoy!

Depression: A daily jihad

 As Salaamu alikum,
Ever since the age of 13, I have been battling depression and anxiety. I have always dealt with it without meds, in large part because I knew the side effects may make me worse than I already am. But lately, I'm finding that option is becoming harder and harder to do . Today and everyday I should be thankful to Allah that I'm alive, that  I have a new husband and I'm in school. But there are some days that I get the blues and other days I get stressed out. And that's when things are going good. Lately, it seems that my anxiety and depression are getting harder to manage without resorting to medication and therapy. Before I was Muslim, it would be easy to go on the meds , go to therapy and be fine. However I have to look at this Islamicaly as well.

As always, depression and anxiety are tools that Satan uses to detract believers from following the deen and strengthening their iman. However, anxiety and depression are conditions that require appropriate management for these are life long conditions. What I am finding is that in the Islamic community, there is a seal of slilence  and backlash going on when it comes to mental illnesses in general. This seal of silence and backlash is causing Muslimahs, Muslims and their families to suffer and in most cases choose not to get help, whetehr through medication, therapy, or even natural alternatives.

At First, i thought about getting a percription  for antidepressants. I thought, one or two pills a day would make me happy and not feel gloomy. However, as this ad explains , the side effects will make you run for the hills.

Plus antidepressants are now coming with a warning that they increase the chances that you will kill yourself while under the medication. But to lighten it up, they say that the suicide risk only happens when teenagers and young adults  are on the medication. Either way, I found it disturbing. I thought the purpose of meds was to make me feel better, not worse.

Inshallah, I will get better and find a way to  be happy with out it being more detrimental  to my health and my deen. May Allah help me find a way to navigate through my storms and do it with grace and honor. Amin.

The Waiting Period

As Salaamu Alikum,

One of the hardest thing a person- muslim or non muslim- has to go through is the death of a marriage. Marriage is one of the most beautiful insitutions in the world. When two people come together who are willing 2 grow and committ to each other for life, it can be a blissful union and children can thrive in that union. However, when all options have been exhausted and when it becomes painfully obvious that two people cannot work cohessively as one, divorce becomes the necessary evil that must be done.

People take the end of a marriage differently. Some have celebrations (divorce parties) where they either drink themselves to a stupor or bash their former spouse as if they had no good memories. Some go into full frontal obsession, afraid of or refusing 2 let go of a marriage that they've been in 4 so long. Neither one of these paths bring closure because it only masks the hurt.

I'm now accepting the fact that my marriage is over. It was not even salvageable. May Allah grant my ex  healing in his heart and may he find his way back to fully practicing the deen correctly. I am realizing that my soul, my heart and my mind need healing as well. It means having to start over both in my deen and in my life. May Allah give me the ease.

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